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Our health, happiness and our success is a direct result of our habits. We are not taking about the harmless or inconsequential habits but a pattern of behavior that repeats over and over again and keeps us stuck. It is an established pattern of being, of feeling, of living, or relating and is deeply wired in our psyche and has deep neurological grooves that are difficult to overcome with affirmations, will power and discipline alone.
There is no doubt how hard it is to change these patterns of behavior! Much harder, though, is to live a life that does not look like anything we had wanted because of our habits.
Habits are learned, we are not born with them. And when something is learned, it can be unlearned. Denial, resistant and rationalization is a natural part of the process as long as we are not stuck in it forever. We have countless examples and inspiring stories of people making radical changes in their lives. They change the way they view themselves, they change the direction of their lives, go back to school to finish their education, they leave that job that was sucking the life out of them, they leave that toxic relationship, kick the worst of addictions and much more. We all have that fire inside of us waiting to be lit. Once we discover that fire, it is no longer possible to live any other way.
Changes that stick are the ones that are made from deep within. Habit patterns are a symptom of our deeply held beliefs about ourselves, about life, about relationships, about health, about money and other things that affect the quality of our life. We know that in order to eradicate the symptoms completely, we must treat the root cause of those symptoms. Until we dive deep and change our beliefs, any change we make on the surface level will only be temporary. Our beliefs are a result of our past experiences, conditioning and old structures( that we once had to establish because they served a purpose then). Once they served their purpose and no longer represent us now, they are no longer needed. However, they become part of our conditioning and will continue to control our behavior unless we evaluate them from time to time and discard them once they have served their purpose and are no longer needed.
in that sense, habits by themselves are not good or bad, they merely feed the belief patterns that we are holding in the subconscious. The subconscious does not judge the habits, it simply does what it needs to do to maintain the status quo – the belief. A habit is a good habit if it is taking us in the direction we want, if it isn’t then it simply is a distraction away from our goals. It is up to us to decide our direction and evaluate whether a habit/choice/action is taking us in that direction.
Before doing the deep inner work that is necessary to make long lasting changes, it is important to establish a mental frame of mind that can serve as a foundation to make these changes.
- Changing habits are about Self Discovery not about Self improvement
Number one thing to realize is that changing habits is not about self-improvement, rather it is about self discovery. It is a much kinder and encouraging way of thinking and it actually IS the truth. It feels exhausting to think that we continuously have to improve regardless of where we are in our journey. It can feel like chasing our tails at times. The question to ask is, “Is this habit a true representation of me?” Anything that is not a true representation of who we are will naturally fall off as we move more and more towards who we truly are.
- Replace an Old Habit with a New One
Replacing an old habit with a new one works much better for our psyche than getting rid of the habit. . Taking away something creates a vacuum and the subconscious will fill it with something else unless we consciously fill it with what we want. One of the most common example of that is weight gain after someone quits smoking. As life changes, what we need also changes. Therefore, it is good to review our habits from time to time to see which ones are no longer in alignment with our growth and our goals and replace them with the ones that are.
- Refrain from Negative Self -Judgment
Habits are not a moral compass to judge ourselves or others by, i.e., bad habits don’t mean that you are a bad person. It just means that we have been there, done that and it no longer holds our interest. Ultimately, we are not our habits. An over identification with our habits is a mental trap that keeps us stuck in the same pattern. The negative self judgment makes us feel the familiar bad inner feeling that acts as a magnet for the same old habit that we are trying to change. So, putting a positive spin on this even on temporary basis and believing that we CAN change the habits works to our advantage and becomes a catalyst in doing the deeper work to make the changes stick.
- Remember Your Why
When we are in the middle of the challenges, naturally we want to give up and do what we have always done. Our comfort lies in the familiarity not what is best for us; comfort, however, does not bring growth. It is in the middle of the challenge, that we must remind ourselves as to why we wanted to make the changes in the first place.
- Remember Your Potential
Our potential is always greater than what we have accomplished today. Just because we can’t do something today does not mean we can’t do it tomorrow. Self – identification is important for us to find our purpose in life but the negative Self – identification can be detrimental. ” I am just a lazy person”, “exercise is not my thing”, ” I have anxiety or any other disorder”, are sure ways to remain stuck. We only know what we know. We never really know our potential until we put ourselves in the challenging or unfamiliar situations and realize we can do far more than we thought. Then we begin to see ourselves differently and more than what we once thought of ourselves. Attaching negative labels and adjectives to ourselves only undermine our potential as human beings and becomes a major mental block in uncovering that potential and really serves no purpose. We are all a certain way until we are not! We can break free of these mental limitations and labels that we impose on ourselves. Since Self- identification is important, find the one that is going to uplift you, make you more of who you truly are and take you in the direction of your goals.
The whole of life is a learning process. Just because you don’t know something today does not mean you won’t tomorrow. Actually, you can and you will!
Sometimes, we have to be shaken to our core to wake up for once and for all! I hurt for all the women, people of different color and race, who thought this was their chance to end the gender and race discrimination and inequality , But I realize, we can end that right now regardless of who runs this country.
Our power, ultimately, lies in our actions, never the outcome! We don’t know what to do right now, but we can meditate, pray, nourish our body and celebrate our very existence. We can celebrate the fact that we CAN bring change in our homes, neighborhoods, communities by how we treat each other.
The outcome does not change our values, our potential and our strength. Our daughters and our sons can achieve all that they want to achieve. Lets teach them equality, respect, self love and love for all humanity and teach them how to take care of themselves, love themselves, honor themselves and how to create communities that unite and not divide. Our lives are a result of our actions and our actions alone. Yes, we may have an uphill battle but don’t despair and hold on to the love that we feel for ourselves, and the whole of humanity.
Let the voice of fear and anger find its own way! Let’s not be controlled by our own fears! When the world is THIS divided and polarized, there is fear on both sides. In a polarized world, we all loose! A victory that is borne out of fear and hatred is not a victory. A victory that dims the light of so many people is not a victory!
Right now, to love is to yield to the parts of ourselves ..( the fear, anger ..our own darker, shadow side) and accept and love our own darker side. That is all the opposition parts actually showed us – our very own shadow side. We may right now be blinded by our anger and not see this; don’t allow the anger to turn into hatred, instead channel it to open our hearts even more. Become whole, as we bridge the gap between the good and the bad, the fear and the love. To love is to trust in our innate goodness!
Don’t mistake the process for the end result! The end result is not who won or who lost, the end result is how we feel in our hearts, how we show up for what is important and how we uplift ourselves and our communities.
So, chin up! There is a blessing in every curse and curse in every blessing. Our job is find the blessing no matter what, move on and become who we truly are! We are whole – with the good and the bad, the negative and the positive. Let’s open our hearts to those parts of ourselves that we don’t like. The results have merely mirrored what we experience within ourselves.
Let’s be the change we want to see in the world! Let’s love, love and love!
Originated in India some 8000 years ago, this ancient practice of Self-realization and transformation has become a much needed practice of the modern times. The undeniable health benefits of this practice are what draws about 20 million people in the US who have made Yoga a regular part of their health regime. The practice and teachings of Yoga are as wide and as deep as an ocean and provide an endless reservoir of self-exploration and deep wisdom for all of humanity and is free of any discrimination of age, ability, gender, sexual orientation, religion and belief. It is important to point out that what was meant to be an individual practice where the teacher imparted the knowledge to the student based not only on the physical needs but also on the mental, emotional, psychological and spiritual needs of the student, has evolved into a mainstream practice accessible to all.
What is Yoga? When asked this question, even the seasoned practitioner and the teacher tend to fall short in the explanation as the true explanation lies in one’s experience. Derived from Sanskrit, Yoga means to “yolk” or to unite. Unite us with what? The explanation that is most commonly understood is that it unites us with our body, mind and spirit. True, but a more insightful question to ask is what have we become separated from? What we have become separated from is who we are and what we are. We can call this our true essence or the Self. Other names are the Source or Pure Consciousness. While it is true that Yoga is an integrated practice of mind, body and spirit, but there is more. Mind, body and spirit is the trinity that comes out of Pure Consciousness. Our own consciousness is part of the greater Consciousness which unites all of life and is infinite. The ultimate union then is of our finite self with the Infinite Self.
Consciousness is universal energy and life force. Our journey into the physical body begins with consciousness just like a tree begins with the seed. However, it transcends the human life as we know it and beyond the earth, in other words, it does not end when our human life ends. It has no beginning and no end and is beyond the concept of time and space. It is the source of all thought, emotion and our liveliness and contains the energy, information and intelligence. Healing comes from connecting with this source and disease arises when we disconnect from this source.
How then can a simple asana practice deliver such a union? How can simply being in a posture connect us with our true nature? Here is my attempt in explaining it. Through a system of breath work and body movements, we come in direct contact with our strengths, weaknesses, and with what we are holding on to. The continuous flow of the breath beckons us to let go and to find ease. This letting go happens at the cellular level and gets deeply embedded in our muscles, tissues and bones, creating memory, stirring parts of us that we may have tucked away. We move through the body to move beyond the body. It is subtle yet powerful. We find a resolve in letting go and experience the relief and the stillness that accompanies it. We may find a place that is of pure love and acceptance, a place that is complete and whole. This is our true essence. Nothing needs to be said, all is experienced in this inner silence and calm. The connection heals with the realization that we were never broken to begin with.
We walk away feeling lighter, freer and happier and ready to infuse our experience into our lives and becoming more and more of who we truly are, Pure Consciousness. It is this experience that shatters our judgments of ourselves and others, gravitates us towards health promoting habits, lifestyle and relationships. This is how simply taking a yoga class to relieve back pain can result in finding our true purpose, serving as a pivotal point in our spiritual journey. This is the story of numerous practitioners who have come before me. We have to know nothing, we simply have to practice and the results will unfold for us when we are ready.
The word Yoga, “union” implies that there are two opposing forces or concepts at play. Yoga is the art and science of bringing these opposing forces into a more harmonious existence. Yoga is the balance between fluidity and integrity, mind and body. finite and infinite. Why balance is sought after, spoken about and is out of reach for many is because of the allure or the temporary stimulation the extremes hold. Budha discovered that living in the extremes is the cause of suffering and real growth and happiness only comes from the middle path. Doing too much would be to push into challenging postures in spite of the strain, pain or fatigue that one may experience, doing too little would be barely even trying. The place in the middle is the point of steady pleasantness in the body and ease in the mind, truly experiencing going with the flow. Life becomes effortless as it was meant to be. We feel free. This is how we know that we are experiencing Yoga.
This heightened awareness serves as a preventative measure. Chronic psychological stress that caused blockages in the flow of this energy and intelligence begins to dissipate. This in turn helps us face our difficulties and not allow them to overwhelm us as they have in the past. This increased ability to choose our own response fosters a renewed sense of control over our lives. It gives us strength to do the right thing at the right time and in achieving self-control and self-fulfillment. When we are at peace with our inner world, our outer world reflects the same back to us. And that is what adds richness and fullness to our life experiences. We can feel being alive in every fiber of our being. We can begin to move from surviving to living. It is then no longer about what we do, but how we do it. We now set up the ground for healing and health. What we need to do to heal again becomes clear. We become open to making changes that were not possible before. We tune in to what we need and we find ways to get it. We begin to believe that healing is possible and begin to trust in the bigger picture. We move towards acceptance, which spares a lot of our energy that was tied up in worry, control and conflict. Where we begin in Yoga and where we end up is hardly the point. It is all the stuff in the middle of the journey that has the lasting effect on our lives.
The practices of Yoga and Meditation are intertwined. Yoga practice itself is a meditation. It uses the body, and the breath to train the mind and then to transcend it. This happens at the end of a yoga class, in the corpse pose. We observe without the struggle to figure it all out; we see all in its perfection, we restore our wholeness and trust. When we begin to give to ourselves what we seek from others, we fill ourselves up to the rim to the point that we naturally overflow. We forgive ourselves for the same qualities that hurt us in others. It becomes easy to let go of past grudges because we realize how much energy it took to hold on to them.
My approach to anything in life is a pragmatic one. If doing something serves us, then do it. As our life changes, our needs change and so do our rituals. Yoga is not about an external ritual or practice, it is about creating that inner attitude and experience that is important. We remember these experiences at a cellular level and seek to create those experiences in all aspects of our lives. Yoga is about cultivating an ability to open ourselves enough that we can find something positive regardless of what we experience. This ability to change our perspective, to be positive, is central to our psychological and emotional health, which in turn makes us better people. As our inner life evolves, what matters more and more is how we are being with whatever life brings us. We acknowledge and accept that the outcome is ultimately beyond our control.
We are in everything alive; we shine in every star. When we can connect with that part of ourselves which is beyond the body, mind and spirit, we see ourselves in all creation and we see all creation within us. It is at this point where we realize we have begun to heal.
There is a deep connection between spirituality and healing. To become more conscious is not to control the outcome of our actions; it is rather to co-create with that which is larger. It is to harmonize with our higher self and let nature do what is for the highest good. We regain our power when we harmonize with nature. We heal when we reconnect with the source out of which all life arises. When we become that tuned in to who we truly are, there is no longer an attachment to a desired outcome, instead we feel okay with whatever happens. We realize that what is in store for us is far more than we could have dreamed of.
#meditationmyths, #whytomeditate, #meditation
As widespread as the practice of meditation is becoming, it still remains a mystery for many of us. As I pondered upon the resistance that many of us have regarding meditation, it dawned on my that more than the fear of the unknown, there is a mental block due to many misconceptions about meditation. Here they are:
- I am not stressed therefore I don’t need to meditate. 90% of the stress is subconscious and it drives our behaviors and habit patterns. Since being perpetually stressed is the “norm” , there is a lack of reference as to what “being without stress” feels like. Stress is a by-product of living, esp. in today’s world, and it must be eliminated intentionally. The fact that we can’t quantify stress or “see” it, makes it crucial that me eliminate it regularly, as we can get blind-sided by the effects of it. Chronic stress pressurizes the nervous system and can show up in number of ways: insomnia, anxiety, panic attacks, depression to name a few.
- My anxiety is what gets me going. If I get relaxed, I won’t be able to function. This belief fuels our anxiety and keeps us stuck in this cycle, only to come to a halt when the nervous system crashes i.e. nervous break down. As I thought more about the need for this thinking, I think it is coming from a need for validation, ” If I am always busy, and anxious about it, I am important, I matter, I exist and I have a life” I can’t speak for everyone, but that has been my experience in working with many clients. That need is then met by over-stimulating the nervous system and not releasing the accumulated stress sufficiently. If we shift our sense of identification to our true self ( which without meditation, becomes only a word), not only we will accomplish more, we will do so anxiety free. Feeling continuously anxious about “everything to do” is very different from actually doing everything. A clear and calm mind accomplishes more!
- My mind is very active, therefore I can’t meditate. The monkey nature of the mind is universal. Calmer mind is a by-product of meditation. In meditation, we let go of mind, the body, and contact the source of our being. In that process, when the stress is released, not only the mind naturally quiets down, we shift our sense of identification to our true self…( which is beyond body, mind and beyond description, but not beyond experience)
- I can’t still still, so I can’t meditate. Inability to stay still is a function of a an overstressed and overstimulated nervous system. Not being able to sit still is not healthy and must be addressed. Meditation provides us with the tools on how to still the body and the mind.
- I have too much to do, can’t take time to meditate. Always feeling like we have too much to do and not enough time to do it, is a state of feeling overwhelmed. This experience is coming from not being able to clean up the unnecessary stress that has been accumulating over time. There is no mental space left and the same thoughts continue to circle the mind, keeping us in a perpetual feeling of being overwhelmed. This is a clue to stop! There is a need to empty out the garbage bin, as it is overflowing! Meditation is the way to do it! We accomplish more when we are not feeling overwhelmed; we can organize and prioritize better letting go of unnecessary stuff or things to do. This gives us an experience of feeling calm and relaxed. When we stay calm, we accomplish more in a shorter amount of time, therefore we save time. Imagine that!
- I don’t understand meditation. Most of us don’t understand how electricity works, yet we use it and reap the benefits. There is no need to understand how meditation works, there is only the need to practice it. We are not what and how much we know, we are what we experience. Don’t we all deserve to experience clarity and mental peace?
I stumbled upon a Yoga class 22 years ago when I was working full time as a CPA. Being born and raised in India where Yoga, in one form or another, is embedded in the culture and lifestyle, I was surprised and delighted to be in a formal yoga class. I felt a sense of “coming home” and that started my Yoga journey.
After having taught Yoga to all ages, abilities and in all different settings, needless to say, the practice and teachings have influenced every aspect of my life, shaping, reshaping and transforming me in numerous ways. Like many of you, I have endured many losses, enjoyed countless blessings and have searched my soul to the nth degree to make sense of things. The wisdom of Yoga helped me in ways I did not think possible and unfolded my path before me and I followed.
As Yoga paved the way for more learning and evolution, I started studying Ayurvedic Medicine and graduated as An Ayurvedic Health Practitioner in 2011 from New World Ayurveda. Being the daughter of an Ayurvedic physician, I grew up wanting to be a doctor so I could help people live healthier and happier lives. The Western medicine did not uphold the same appeal for me, so I took some detours before I found my way back to Ayurveda.
We may be alone in our own unique journey but along the way we are fortunate enough to find teaches(formal and other wise) and mentors who show us what we may not see by ourselves. I have had the good fortune to study with many amazing teachers and mentors who have helped me to my next level of growth and evolution in my personal and professional life.
#IdoYoga, #donotlikeyoga, #whydoyoga
I have had a bad experience in a Yoga class. I never want to do that again. Have you ever bought a bad pair of shoes? Do you stop buying shoes because of that? All shoes are not build the same; all Yoga is not the same! Just because you’ve had a bad experience in one class, does not mean there is not a good one out there for you. Try a class with us; we are pretty sure you will come back again.
I can’t bend; I am so inflexible. This is a BIG one! The truth is most of us are inflexible until we do Yoga. It is precisely the reason why you should! Do not mistake the end for the means. Flexibility is the end result of doing Yoga. You start as you are!
Wouldn’t it be awesome to be able to reach up to get something without pulling a muscle, bend down with ease, pick up your child or bag of groceries without hurting your back, not wake up stiff, being able to look behind you without straining your neck, play with your kids on the floor….
What is it costing you to remain inflexible? Ask yourself this question and you may gain more clarity as to why you should do Yoga.
I am waiting till my shoulder gets better and my back does not hurt any more…Make Yoga part of your recovery process. We have 2 therapy classes, which will address your specific issues, or even the level I classes depending on if you are new to yoga or are seasoned. Yoga therapy will help you regain most of your movement back; in many cases, full recovery and will help you prevent future injuries. The Yoga School specializes in Yoga therapy!
I can’t sit still. Frantically running around to get stuff done does not necessarily translate into accomplishing more. How do you feel when you run around everyday to do more and more? How do you sleep? Are you happy at the end of the day, or simply exhausted?
What if you could accomplish more with less stress and more fulfillment? This is the promise of Yoga! Why are you holding back in experiencing this kind of life?
Make Yoga part of your life – live with ease and presence and live a purposeful life.
It is too hard, you have to hold poses and I will make a fool of myself in front of the whole class. The classical poses are a very small part of Yoga, and some Yoga teachers may focus only on that. Here, at The Yoga School, we are not about poses, but we do all of them. There are countless ways to tap into the body and there is more to us than just the physical body. We explore all that in our classes. We teach you how to feel better in YOUR body; there is no predetermined class or material you have to learn. NO, you do not have to hold any poses and endure pain! You will walk away feeling better and have more energy.
What if I start laughing, can’t do what others are doing and make a fool of myself Come laugh away! Laughter is a way for many of us to work through what we may be feeling. You will figure out what that is for you! There is a purpose in comparing us to others; it helps us define ourselves. Once we begin to accept ourselves as we are, what others do or think becomes unimportant. Laughter is the best medicine and we take it generously in our classes.
I do not want to be in 100 degree temperature room, that would be torture! All of our classes are around 70-degree temperature. Bikram yoga classes are taught at a high temperature. We are not Bikram Yoga.
I have a fear of… Fear can be a great motivator and it can also be debilitating. Are you afraid that you will never be healthy and happy? Let that motivate you to start Yoga.
Are you afraid of getting better and taking charge of your life? Then stay with this thought, dig a little deeper to know why?
I will look horrible in Yoga Clothes. I do not know how fashion got confused into yoga, but it has!
Wear what you are comfortable in! Tights, sweats, t-shirts, sweat shirts. We believe once you feel better, you will look awesome regardless of what you wear! We are in the business of making you feel great from the inside out. What you wear is only your business.
I do not have time to do Yoga, I am too busy This is how we all feel until we do Yoga. Yoga slows down the mind, gives more clarity and focus, so you can accomplish more but remain present and at peace. The feeling of lack of time is a state of mind; Yoga will fix that so you will experience an abundance of time and richness in your life.
I have no reason! I just don’t think I am a Yoga person! That is because you haven’t tried Yoga with us. Come check us out!
The recent article in NY times, “How Yoga can wreck your body” has stirred up a lot of dialogue in the yoga community. On one hand I am glad that this article came about as it has necessitated an open conversation, on the other hand I think that it may deter some people from trying Yoga when it could actually be beneficial for them.
It is important to point out that the practice of Yoga goes back to thousands of years and was traditionally meant to be an individual practice where the teacher imparted the knowledge to the student based not only on the physical needs but also on the mental, emotional, psychological and spiritual needs of the student. Needless to say that the evolution of asana practice (Yoga poses) in a group setting is a far cry from its original intention.
The asana practice on the mat is a significant yet a very small part of Yoga. So equating the asana practice to the whole of yoga is a misrepresentation. The physical part has risks with it as any other physical exercise has when done ignoring the body. However, tuning into our body and honoring our body during our practice can never harm us. It is not Yoga if we are not mindful to the body. We have to stop being so fascinated by the Yoga postures. There are endless ways to awaken each part of the body and bring balance.
Ultimately, what we seek is happiness and freedom from suffering. There is no bigger block to happiness than ill health. The asana practice is means to an end. It is a tool to unite us with our deeper self where we find ultimate peace and happiness. Feeling well in the body can allow us to move beyond it and connect with our deeper self.
Below are some tips that you may follow to develop a safe and enjoyable Yoga practice:
- Adopt a beginner’s mind. Each time you practice, practice as if this is your first time. Our body changes from day to day and so do our needs. Tune in to the body that day and see what you need. Understand the basics first. Understand your own unique strengths and weaknesses, get to know the problematic areas in your body. Become aware and learn to honor where you are at. Yoga may look simple, but it is not easy. Build a solid foundation of knowledge of alignment before getting into challenging classes or poses.
- Learn to listen to your body. Tuning in to your body and honoring its signals will ensure a safe practice. In any yoga class, your body, not the teacher, is the real guide to what is best for you. If something doesn’t feel right, ease out of the pose. If something feels like a strain, you’re pushing too hard. If you feel fatigued, relax back in child’s pose or simply sit down and rest.
- Do not compete with your neighbor. Although it is natural to be impressed and awed by someone who can do the advance postures, it may not be safe to compete with them. Be inspired and know what is possible. Explore safely what is possible for you. Ultimately, your physical safety is your responsibility – take it into your own hands. Some people naturally are physically more able to do than others. Not everyone can do all the poses. More is not better, only better is better.
- Find a middle ground. Real growth happens in the middle path, never in the extremes. Doing too much would be to push into challenging postures in spite of the strain, pain or fatigue that one may experience, doing too little would be barely even trying. Find a place in the middle. It is a point of steady pleasantness in the body. Always start with 20% effort. Then find a sense of ease in this effort. When you come to the first level of resistance in the body, back off and breathe into it. Let the tension soften, and then move further.
- Pick the right teacher and class. Practicing with the right teacher is one of the most important aspects of your practice. It is important that the teacher has training and experience in alignment and is able to teach students of all fitness levels including those with physical limitations.
Size of the class is equally important. In a large yoga class, it is not physically possible for the teacher to pay attention to every student regardless of her knowledge and intention. It is best to avoid large classes esp. if you have physical issues going on. I highly recommend individual session with an experienced teacher esp. if you have physical issues. Here the teacher can give you do’s and don’ts that are specific to your condition.
Remember the practice of asanas is not about what it looks like, it is about what it feels like to you. Honor yourself, honor your body and moreover honor your experience.
The whole of human life is a process of letting go. As children, we let go of old friends to make room for new ones, let go of our parent’s homes to make our own mark in the world. We let go of old for the sake of the new, we let go of our needs for the sake of the family’s, let go of our children so they too can make their mark in the world. As the letting go in our youth seemingly leads to expansion of our outer world (creating a family, home and all the material comforts of the world), the letting go in our later years leads to expansion of our inner world, if we let it. We go full circle and end up where we started. We may go back to what used to inspire us, invest in our growth, rediscover ourselves, or redefine our purpose. All of this prepares us for the ultimate letting go, letting go of our body and returning to the Source.
There is a flow to life; to resist that flow is to cause suffering but to dive in the flow is to gain momentum in finding our truth. A letting go that makes us more of who we are; one that brings ease and lightens the load is a good letting go.
Here are the 5 key points to ease the process:
- Shift Your Perspective
Letting go is painful when our focus is on what we are giving up. However, when we shift the focus on what we are getting or where we are headed can give us that much needed relief. It is better to focus on where we are going instead of where we have been. We can choose how we see the process. If we keep our eyes focused on the rose that has just bloomed instead of the bud that it was before, we enjoy the flower. The truth of the rose lies in its bloom and the fragrance it shares. In the same way, our essence/truth is in our deeper Self, our inner Self. Every experience that takes us closer to our true Self is a good experience. Life is an evergreen rose bush, new roses continue to bloom.
- Be In The Moment
We are usually frightened after or in anticipation of what will happen but very rarely in the moment. As we master staying in the moment, we are continuously letting go of the moment past and are not anticipating the next. So we can begin to let all our life become one big letting go experience.
- Be Quick and Adaptable
By not reacting, we can turn any situation around and create an exhilarating victory for ourselves. This all comes from developing and culturing our nervous system through self care, self investment and meditation practices.
- Be Vulnerable
This is our ultimate strength and defense as it brings lightness, freedom, flow and happiness. Allow yourself to feel what you feel. Let go of clutter, grudges, limiting beliefs , and notice how you feel. Become empty of all that is weighing you down and get full again with what you consciously choose. Realize that you do not have to do it all and figure it all out! Why would you impose on your soul to figure out the why of others? Think of letting go as the ultimate act of self-love. You are only responsible for your actions. Do what you know to do. Create boundaries, cut the emotional cords, and invest time in unlocking the treasure that lies within you. That is when the answers will come.
- Recognize the Process
Realize that resistance is not the final picture, It means you are not there YET, yet being the operative word and the process is underway. The resistance does not have to mean anything other than that it is natural, it is movement, and it is superficial and transient.
The human purpose is evolution as it paves the road to our next life. Letting go is not giving up, it is becoming more of who we are. It is not emptying, it is approaching our true Self which is fulfilling.
What we let go becomes part of ourselves, strengthening and carving us into our true Self, much like the leaves; when fallen become part of the tree strengthening its roots and sustaining if for years to come. It is a beautiful process that continuously fills the gaps and comes back to us multifold.
With so many twists, turns and amalgamations, we have come far with the business of Yoga! Overemphasis on one limb, asanas(body postures), and at the best, confused and superficial application of the other limbs leaves the real purpose of Yoga far behind.
Yes, the real and true practice remains an illusion. And as a teacher, you watch this evolution( not sure that it is?) go on and without getting caught up in the trend try to offer a practice that is authentic and has some promise of spiritual growth.
Why has it become so confusing. The practice and teachings that are some 5000 years old were cognized and channeled by enlightened sages and gurus to provide humanity a way of life without suffering. This was the most purest, unselfish teachings as teachers were not looking to advance their finances or their name. The students sought after the gurus and were only introduced to the practice if they were ready. This was at the discretion of their teacher, of course.
A lot has changed since then. The challenge is how to infuse the truth of Yoga in a most authentic way in the modern life confusion and try to stay true to the teachings. The marketing advantage further distorts this path. Our minds have become accustomed to gravitating towards what looks good, feels good and is fun! That leaves many real teachers without much financial means and savvy hidden. The line between what is real and what is not becomes blurry for the novice practitioners. The teachers, if they get caught up, risk distorting their teachings by catering to the students; some postures – but make it fun, yoga fashion, a bit of what may sound like spirituality, mood- making, and throw in a bit of Sanskrit for a good measure, and there you have it. At the best, this kind of setting creates a lure, a fascination towards the practice, but without the depth and all the dimensions, the illusion and the chase remains.
Now the question? Do you give your students what they want or what they need?
I do not claim to have all the answers, but am questioning the path that Yoga seems to have taken. The answer is not as clear cut and we may dance around what is possible and come closer to the truth. In order for the teacher to bring clarity to the students, the teacher must first be clear. To be clear means to not join the race of popularity or trendy. One of my teachers said that the purpose of the teacher is to make the students better than the teacher. Herein I find my answer.
Now with Yoga and wine(Seriously?), the time has come to once again go to the roots of this practice. Serving our purpose here with our limited time on this planet has to be the core of these teachings both for students and teachers and that requires some digging into the truth. The question is: Do you want the truth or the trend?